THE CUT OFF
I know it’s a big ask and would seem almost impossible to do but the cut off is essential for your mental health. You have probably trauma bonded to them and thanks to the constant gaslighting your brain has actually changed shape! You are now constantly in a state of flight or fight, torn between the love you think you feel and the knowledge that you have become involved with an emotion sapping parasite.
Complete denial of the person and the relationship is crucial I think. There is the idea that we meet certain people for a reason but what on Earth would that reason be in the case of narcissistic abuse?! Delete numbers, photos and shared friends. Reclaim the places you visited together as your own.
The one most important thing to remember when doing this is that the relationship was a complete fantasy. The future that they promised was never ever going to happen. Marriage, moving in together was a smokescreen to keep you close so that you could feed them those real emotions that they do not have. I have found it almost impossible to forget as there are times when even now I believed the lies. You can move on, recover and be loved by someone who deserves you!
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