Believe me when I say that this is a question all victims of the narc ask themselves! I did, frequently. This is caused by one of the narcs most fearsome weapons….gaslighting. This is used to get a response from you. Constant confusion will make you question your actual sanity. The response they receive from you is usually anger. This is the response they crave. Now they can start to devalue you. You are the crazy one, the violent one who is the toxic partner. This allows them a sense of righteousness that they think they deserve. She asked me if she was a ‘monster’ and I can now truthfully state that she was without doubt the most horrible person I’ve ever met in 55 years!!
In general if you’re asking yourself if you’re the narcissist it’s a pretty safe bet that you’re not!
I think I've finally said all I'm going to say on her and the near disaster that befell my family and I . It was a harsh lesson taught me that shows that there are those that are beautiful on the outside but are ugly and black on the inside.
You are one of those rare things, a gem on the inside as well as the outside x